Friend Dumped :: Getting Ghosted by Friends

So I have a track record of getting friend dumped or ghosted.

I’ve been friend dumped via messenger using a form letter. I made this woman a quilt for her baby! I’m still a little salty about that. If I make your baby a quilt, I’m pretty committed to you. It also might be a curse on friendships that they either move away or they dump me after I make their kids a quilt.

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I’ve had text messages and phone calls go unanswered. I’ve been dumped for unknown reasons and ignored out in public after vigorously waving at Target. I’ve had people ignore my kids in public–that one probably ruffled my feathers the most. 

Friend Dumped :: Getting Ghosted by Friends
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I began to think it was me . . . or maybe I just attracted the wrong kind of people . . . or early motherhood is just that much of a jungle. 

This was especially hard when I was new to Oklahoma. It seemed like everyone had lifelong friends.

I was a transplant with a military husband. We had lived out of OK for years. I didn’t have a ton of friends or friends with young children. I didn’t have church friends, and I didn’t have my family nearby. When I tried mom groups, it turned out to be a lot of drama. 

In early motherhood when my kids were babies and toddlers, I took this incredibly hard. I am a very sensitive soul and take being dumped quite seriously. But as I’ve grown in motherhood, I’ve gained confidence and care significantly less about what other people think of me. It’s very freeing.

A sweet friend once told me: “Some friends are for a reason and some are for a season.” I now live by that motto and try not to take getting dumped too seriously. I hope that this makes you feel less alone. Recently I have “found my voice” and no longer allow myself to be run over or taken advantage of in friendships.

I’ve switched to watering the special friendships and letting the other friendships naturally prune themselves. 

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Julia Wells

Julia is a Jersey girl turned Okie! She graduated from MICA with a BFA. She moved to Oklahoma, her husband's home state, almost ten years ago. Almost 10 years ago, her family moved to the country and bought a farm. She runs the day to day operations of the farm, The Humble Hive Homestead, where they raise poultry, pork and beef for the community. Julia also home schools their two boys. When not wrangling 2 and 4 legged critters, she enjoys quilting, reading, and creating custom art. She loves to read thrillers and coffee with way too much cream and sugar.